Haircuts and Heartache

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

***Over the next few days, I am going to FINALLY post a few blog entries that I started several weeks ago, and just never got around to finishing and posting. Sometimes the act of sitting down and putting these stories, thoughts, and feelings into writing is just too painful, and it is easier to keep it all bottled up. But there are two reasons for this blog: 1) To keep a chronicle of this whole process so that we can one day share it with Archie, and 2) To share with all of my family and friends each step of the process and allow people to encourage us, love us, and pray for us the whole way through. And if I don't share these things, I am not accomplishing either of those! Okay pep talk done. Here we go.......

On Monday (May 16), I got an email from my facilitator, Toni, letting me know that she had seen Archie on her trip to the orphanage with the Chance family, who was picking up their son Joel, and that he was doing great. (She knew how anxious I was for an update). She got to love on him and gave him some hugs and kisses for us.

She also let me know that Archie had a new haircut......that he had given to himself. His caretakers told her that he had given himself a haircut during school time, but they were pleased that he had laid out a blanket and put it underneath him before he began cutting, so that he wouldn't make a mess. She said that they tried to fix it, but that it definitely looked pretty goofy.

Joel's mom, Joy, sent me some she is loving on our boy with his new do.....
I think he is thinking, "Oh no, please don't show this to my mom...."

He really chopped it! I was cracking up when I saw the pictures. I think he looks as cute as ever!

The haircut story definitely made me smile. But the next part of Toni's email broke my heart. She told me that Archie was asking where "Mama, Daddy, and Ace" were. They tried to explain to him that it was Joel's turn to go home, but that we would be there soon and it would be his turn. He understood. Then when they were all leaving, Archie walked out to the car with his teacher, so that he could wave goodbye. And that is when he saw Toni's aunt, who was there to help with everything, and she had been waiting outside. When he saw her from a distance, he thought she was me, and he ran towards her screaming, "mama, mama, mama!" Then when he got to her and realized it wasn't me, he was sad and disappointed.

Later I saw a picture of Toni's aunt, and my heart broke even more. She has the exact same haircut as me. Short, brown hair. I could totally see how he thought it was me. Just the thought of him feeling sad and disappointed that I wasn't there tears me apart. I cannot wait to hug him, kiss him and just hold him again.

Please pray that things continue to move quickly and smoothly so that day can be soon!!
Lots of Love!

Happy Gotcha Day, Joel!

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Yesterday was a day for rejoicing! Archie's buddy, Joel, said goodbye to the orphanage he had been living in for the better part of his seven years of life. His mom and dad carried him out, and there was one less orphan in the world. We love you, Joel! We are so happy that you are now safe with your mom and dad- right where you are supposed to be.

Joel and Archie, on our first trip

Finally! Joel with his mom and dad!


Sleeping like an angel with mom and dad by his side

Our turn next!
Lots of Love,

What now?

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Today marks one month from the day that we stepped onto a plane and headed across the world to meet our boy. Since we returned, I have been on a crazy "paper chase", trying to get all of our paperwork finished up and sent in, and praying that this part of the process will go smoothly and quickly. So far so good. We got our I-800 (important document that basically grants us permission to adopt Archie) in the mail the Monday we got back, and we received the approval last week! That was really the most important step, and the approval honestly came more quickly than we had anticipated, so we were THRILLED about that.

We also had to get some other paperwork redone, which included a trip downtown for police clearances, and a trip to the doctor for updated physical exams. After all paperwork was in hand, the next step is to have it notarized, and then finally apostilled-- Basically sent to the be authenticated at the state level...pretty much a higher up notary. Once we had everything notarized, I was going to send them off to Austin to be apostilled, but because it can take up to two weeks to get your papers back from Austin, Ace and I decided last Friday after her soccer practice, that we would take a little road trip! We left Houston at 1:30 and walked into the Secretary of State office building at 4:24....well actually we were sprinting in....okay I was sprinting with Ace flying around on my hip and she was cracking up- because they closed at 4:30. We made it in time, and were back in the car at 4:32 with apostilled papers in hand, heading back home. And that was the LAST OF THE PAPERWORK!! What a ridiculously good feeling.

So now we all we can do is wait.....which is so, so hard.

The next big step is to get our court date. Court will occur in Bulgaria, but we do not have to be there for it. Our wonderful and amazing coordinator/lawyer/translator/FRIEND will appear on our behalf. June is looking like a good possibility for court, but there are so many factors and unknowns, and we just can't be sure. After court is passed, we will receive a travel date to go back and pick him up to bring him HOME! It is our hope that he is home with us in August.

Oh man, how we miss him.

Thank you all for the overwhelming amount of love and support and words of encouragement! It truly means the world to us.
We are crazy blessed.

Lots of Love!